Helping daughters with difficult mother/daughter dynamics.

Is your relationship with your mother a source of pain or guilt for you?

Do you wish you didn’t feel so angry or frustrated by her?

Do you feel a constant tension of “I should call her” but can’t get a word in when you’re actually on the phone with her?

Do you sense that some of the issues you have in relationship stem from childhood experiences you have yet to unpack?

Have you lived under the thumb of your mother’s approval or opinions for so long, you find it difficult to connect with your own desires and needs?

Does speaking with her make your confidence and clarity go down the drain?

Is it difficult to make decisions you know will disappoint your mother?

Is it a struggle to focus on yourself, to feel worthy enough to follow your own purpose, rather than staying busy caring for everyone else?

Or is it challenging to get more in touch with your own tenderness, your own vulnerability, because you’ve had to protect yourself so much?

The majority of my 14 years as a therapist has been dedicated to helping daughters heal from the impact of challenging attachment relationships in their childhood - primarily, the relationships they had with their mother and father. While we can be quite high-functioning in our every day lives, the subtle effects from our childhood experiences can live on in us.

They often show up in the places where we struggle - within our marriages, friendships, or with our own children.

Sometimes the issues show up when we are trying to build traction in a relationship - but can’t seem to make it stick.

Or when we are trying to believe in ourselves. To be more confident and bold in our lives - or more vulnerable - but can’t seem to get out of our own way.

There is healing that can occur within the mother daughter relationship - but our mothers have to be willing and able to hear us.

And if mothers have been so emotionally neglected themselves, if they have never been heard, they will have a very hard time hearing their daughters.

So then it leaves us to do the healing within ourselves.

I help you do this work.