
What if everything you wanted lived downstream?
Some of my specialized focuses in women's issues are:
Stopping the Spiral. I help women stop the spirals of despair, hopelessness, self-doubt, shame, and guilt that hold them back from what they really want in their lives and their relationships. Together we will find your clear state - the true north that lives inside you that can be trusted to make your life’s biggest decisions.
vs. your trauma state - so that you can know which thoughts and feelings to use to guide your decisions. find your clear state vs. your trauma state - helping you identify the thoughts and feelings My work here is embodied to help women distinguish between their trauma states and work to help wire in new and truer states of being that help them heal trauma at its root - the body. Together we will work to reduce the effects of sensitive triggers that lead to emotional flooding, anger and resentment, ambivalence in relationship, anxiety, or hopelessness.
Developing trust around intimacy and authenticity. The need to appear "tougher" than one feels inside or to deny one's "neediness." The experience of anxiety or avoidance around intimacy and vulnerability. The tendency to be a caretaker rather than assert one's own needs and feelings.
Having difficulty finding the right relationship. Are there patterns inhibiting you from choosing the right partner? Perhaps - but I also trust each woman's timing and her process. I do not believe a woman must "fix" herself before finding a mate. What I support is a woman knowing who she is, what she needs, and what she deserves from a good relationship.
Digging up the root of your self-doubt and learning how to nurture yourself. Challenging pervasive insecurities and learning to see yourself (and your body) accurately rather than through the lens of criticism. Also, developing internal boundaries with the parts of you that befriend your inner critic and understand its purpose in a way that takes away its power.
Working through ambivalence, disappointment, and grief when life doesn't look the way you thought it would. This can come at different phases in life: whether you are feeling the loss of identity, or the loss of a community from a big transition, or even the sense of feeling disconnected in your life even while you are surrounded by people. I help people meet the disappointment and honor the need for mourning what has been lost or thus far unattained.
Being the mother you want to be. You want to be a different mother or as good a mother as yours was. Yet you find yourself triggered Adapting to motherhood and the complex range of feelings that arise in this new stage of life. Experiencing strong feelings in response to your children and wondering if your own 'stuff' is coming up. I work to help women identify and heal from these triggers and find new ways of self-regulating and engaging their child with presence even during conflict.
Mother/daughter relationships: Establishing healthy boundaries, finding your voice in the relationship, working through guilt and reducing a sense of responsibility, processing early abuse or emotional cut-off, and tools for communication and self-care.
Recovering from the trauma of childhood abuse, neglect, or mistreatment. I have worked with the deeply engrained effects of emotional, sexual, and physical abuse in early childhood.